Ready to embody some truth speaking and boundary setting bad-assery??
more often!
Learn how to move from self doubt to no doubt , hold your ground when you need to speak up, and set boundaries that feel GOOOOOOOOOOOOD to express!
The "B WORD" Embodied Boundary Coaching Immersion is HERE!!
February 2nd - March 9th, 2023
(Read that again! YUP, boundaries can feel good! I said what I said!)
I'm talking about cellular level kind of boundary setting.
IN-YOUR-BONES-I-DESERVE-TO-TAKE-UP-SPACE-AND-SPEAK-MY-TRUTH-KIND-OF-CONFIDENCE!
TRUTH SPEAKING AND SETTING boundaries is not about "fixing your bad boundary skills" or strategizing, and more ABOUT FEELING SAFE TO SHARE WHAT'S ON YOUR HEARt
Welcome to the world of Embodied Boundaries,
Dear One!
On a soul level, you KNOW you need to have healthier boundaries and to speak your truth more often...
You can't seem to get the words past the tip of your tongue OR, when you do, you feel defensive and say things you don't mean.
You might ask yourself...
And yet...
"Why is it so damn hard to speak my truth?"
You've watched the TED Talks, read the self help books and listened to every affirmational throat opening meditation you can find and still, it's
common to...
Freeze and your throat locks up when it's time to speak up or set a boundary.
Go into a panic, not think clearly, and not be able to get the words out.
Leave family visits wishing you'd been able to advocate for yourself or others.
Say yes all the time to invitations when you'd rather not attend.
Be exhausted most of the time because you people please over our own self-care.
OR
You have rigid boundaries that are often perceived as harsh by others.
Say NO on reflex and sometimes feel lonely or isolated.
Use snappy or volatile language when you communicate.
Use sarcasm to express yourself in a moment of embarrassment or discomfort.
Leave others feeling hurt by how you communicate with them.
You're ready to speak from your heart...
I have DA BEST news for you!!
(While maintaining your dignity and without causing harm to other people.)
The secret (there isn't one) to voicing healthy boundaries isn't about learning step by step"how to" strategies ...
(stay with me here...)
It's about tapping into the deep wisdom of your body, and using that wisdom to guide your expression.
THIS is the moment "healthy" boundaries become sustainable in the long run.
I get it... speaking up is
tricky AF...
We've been programmed to outsource our inner authority since day 1...
and it's because we're socialized to be everything to everyone 100% of the time.
(ESPECIALLY for those of us socialized as girls)
It's no surprise that so many of us these days:
✦ experience imposter syndrome, mental health concerns, and resort to people-pleasing over self-care.
✦ feel so traumatized, we can't speak up.
✦respond from a place of reflexive self-defence, or not at all.
✦choose to stay silent more, advocate less, & speak up for ourselves less. (especially women and further marginalized groups).
✦are suffering from exhaustion and burnout in staggering numbers.
All of this causes your nervous system to become dys-regulated, or what I like to say... feeling "out of whack".
When Your nervous system is "out of whack",
your truth speaking mechanism can't work properly
(...Seriously, your vocal cords and throat muscles are legit controlled by your nervous system!)
The challenges you have with speaking up and holding sustainable boundaries may not be your fault (they aren't) ...
BUT... if you wanna make speaking up and holding your ground a regular thing, embodying reparation and healing IS your choice and responsibility.
This is where embodied boundaries and truth speaking save the day!
For the past 20+ years, I've been helping people like you embody the magic of their inner knowing so they can live and share from a place of resourced wholeness, and confidently speak up in life and work.
Hi there, Beautiful Soul!
I'm Elise!
I know exactly how it feels to stay silent and not speak up...
Until 12 years ago, I spent the better part of my life people pleasing and staying silent rather than speaking up and using my voice.
Growing up in a large body, I would become anything others wanted me to be to avoid being bullied or harmed, (including not advocating for myself while being the butt end of a joke).
BOUNDARIES??? WHAT BOUNDARIES?
Even in my career, though I was coaching others to speak up and use their voices, I was buying into the narrative that I shouldn't be using mine.
Those cultural narratives and traumas run DEEP, don't they?
Living under such pressure wasn't great for my nervous system, and I know our nervous system plays a big role in our truth speaking abilities!
I also know that its possible to shift these challenges into truth speaking badassery...
12 years ago, I started practicing and studying somatic healing, particularly how our nervous systems play a big role in being able to access our voices.
It was through this somatic work that I was able to finally combine my training as a life coach and vocalist/performer/voice coach into something that made airtight sense, AND helped people like myself, who needed support in speaking up and setting boundaries.
People often ask me how I became so confident in my truth speaking and my answer is always: "Boundaries and somatic work".
Our nervous systems and bodies are WISE AF. The secret to our aligned and empowered lives is to listen to that wisdom!
Introducing...
"The "B" Word" - 6 week live online group coaching immersion
February 2 - March 9, 2023
A 6 week deep dive into how to claim your voice speak up more, and emerge on the other side as a Bonnified Boundary Bad-Ass!
I'm in! sign me up! >>
- Jessica Clerk, confidence coach and podcast host
"I was struggling with celebrating myself and believing my voice was worth sharing. It was empowering to open up and share my truth and struggles. Since this opening, I’m empowered to speak up and trust my voice."
NIKKI ROSE MARTIN - ACTOR/MUSICIAN/TEACHER/
WRITER/DANCER
"Prior to working with Elise, I was struggling to identify who I really am, what I do, and where I want to go with my creative ventures. I was able to let go of some of my fears around perfection or looking silly, and sink into what it meant to identify myself, my desires, and my goals. Elise guided me, with a beautifully gentle hand, through some exercises that helped shift my perspective from being a passive character in my own life, to a much more active one. She helped me create a purposeful mantra to remind myself of what I no longer need, and where I really want to go. I highly recommend working with Elise if you struggle with communicating not only with others, but also with yourself, and stripping away the limiting beliefs that society has made you believe about yourself. "
here's how we roll in "the B Word" ...
Around here... BOUNDARY isn't a bad word!!!
It's where embodiment and self-connection meet communication skill building and personal power - so you can stop sacrificing your precious time and energy and let that inner truth of yours live on the outside once and for all!
self-connection
thought work
purpose & worth work
personal power
communication tools
boundary badassery
Tangible tools and resources to regulate your nervous system and embody personal safety so you can speak from your heart without feeling out of whack!
Frame your communication from a place of dignity and non-violence, so you can speak up without causing harm to self or others.
Boundaries that feel GOOOOD to express! Set and hold boundaries from a place of personal safety and self-connection and based on YOUR inner truth.
Trauma aware limiting belief work to help liberate you from spinning thoughts that hold you back from living your life and doing your work to the fullest.
Tap into the depths of your desires and start to voice them to the world. This isn't about rushing into what you want rather, using your body's wisdom and intuition to guide you there!
This is where we stop out-sourcing our personal power to culture and systems, and dive deep into embodied I-DESERVE-TO-TAKE-UP-SPACE truth speaking!
sign me up!!>>
a 6 week program for radical support for your truth speaking journey!
Expand your capacity:
Speak YOUR truth:
Claim your power:
Reconnect to source:
Embody your purpose:
Get CRYSTAL Clear:
claim your power:
The power of your voice. hone the wisdom of your own experiences so you can lead your conversations with the belief that your voice has a purpose.
embody your purpose:
Clear blocks about the purpose of your voice: So you can speak up and set boundaries in a way that feels GOOD TO YOU. Walk away from this program with your own Boundary Language Blueprint!
RECONNECT TO SOURCE:
Using proven nervous system regulation science (poly-vagal theory) and somatic coaching tools you'll embody and express YOUR truth from a more regulated state.
GET CRYSTAL CLEAR:
Move from wondering how to speak up to knowing how to speak from your heart: in full alignment with your values, your needs and your dignity.
TLDR/Looking for the cliffs notes?
In the "B" WOrd you'll be held in transformation by:
An experienced coach and somatics practitioner AND beautiful community of like-minded boundary bad-assery seekers
Proven nervous system regulation science and somatic coaching tools to help you embody and express YOUR truth.
Thought work that won't make you feel like you have to "fix" something about yourself to experience deep transformation.
There is no right or wrong way to do this work. You are met where you are. You are honoured for your experience.
Even when you don't want to... The word flies out of your mouth, sometimes before you even have a chance to think, amiright?
Maybe NO comes easier to you, but after you express it you feel regretful and the need to explain why or make sure the other party involved isn’t unhappy with you OR maybe your NO is aggressive and leaves shame in it's wake.
This is rooted in that deep inner knowing that you have something valuable to say and that you are worthy of carving out time and space for yourself. Boundary bad-assery is: the ability to trust the wisdom of your body to share your truth AND hold the experience of others as true, too!
You're done giving your power away.
You're done buying into the beliefs that systemic narratives have burdened you with.
You're ready to show up in your life, AS IS. No fixing required.
You're ready to speak up and unleash your truth to the world.
You're ready to be that woman on the outside (the one you FEEL in your bones!)
You're ready to have healthy boundaries, ones that feel GOOOOD to express!
You're ready to be ... YOU!
Maybe NO comes easier to you, but after you express it you feel regretful and the need to explain why or make sure the other party involved isn’t unhappy with you OR maybe your NO is aggressive and leaves shame in it's wake.
You're done giving your power away, or taking others' power from them.
You're done buying into the beliefs that systemic narratives have burdened you with that say; boundaries are selfish and over bearing.
You're ready to show up in your life, AS IS. No fixing required.
You're ready to speak up and unleash your truth to the world.
You're ready to be that person on the outside (the one you FEEL in your bones!)
You're ready to have healthy boundaries, ones that feel GOOOOD to express!
You're ready to be ... YOU!
This is rooted in that deep inner knowing that you have something valuable to say and that you are worthy of carving out time and space for yourself. Boundary bad-assery is: the ability to trust the wisdom of your body to share your truth AND hold the experience of others as true, too!
You're ready to stop saying yes to everything that comes your way
you're ready to stop saying yes to everything that comes your way
you're ready to speak up more often!
you're ready to have hard conversations with more ease.
You feel like you have to justify your "no"
You're ready to SPEAK UP MORE!
You're ready to have hard conversations with more ease!
the "B" Word is for you if...
YOU FEEL LIKE YOU HAVE TO JUSTIFY YOUR "NO"
sign up today >>
- becky keen, business and mindset coach
“Fabulous! Empowering! Freeing!
I’ve discovered that this work is the path to more of everything, and that it’s less about mindset and more about training my body that it’s safe to express myself. Elise gets to the root fast by encouraging me to be present to the wisdom of my body.”
- Sara kelly, heart based business mentor
“Elise’s guidance allowed me to uncover and find a part of my voice that had long been forgotten. I was able to find power in my vulnerability and more acceptance in ALL parts of myself and I can show up even more fully in my work, my relationships and the world!”
- STEPHANIE PETERS BARTLETT - PHD CANDIDATE & RECONCILIATION COACH
"Before working with Elise, something in my body or subconscious was holding me back - literally. My throat would often feel like it was closing in or blocked when I was talking. I had a call with Elise that was so transformational, it raised my awareness of my body wisdom and love for my whole self. Anyone on the fence about doing this work, DO IT! I have no doubt that Elise could lead anyone through their limiting beliefs towards full body expression. Who wouldn’t want that?"
- Six weeks of embodied truth speaking and boundary setting coaching
- Six 90 minute group coaching calls via Zoom (Thursdays at 12:00pm EST)
- Weekly "discovery work" and exercises to help integrate the teachings
- Pop up private Facebook group for radical support from your classmates
- Access to Elise's #radicalvoicelove Meditation Vault
program Details & investment
$497 USD*
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VIP ADD ON ~
1:1 coaching
VIP OPTION: Add on two 60 minute private coaching calls and up the anti on your truth speaking game with fully customized support and coaching from Elise during the program. Also includes 3 hours of voice memo or video support (1/2 hour per week) between group calls and private sessions.
$1097 USD*
YES! Sign me up!>>
*Split payment plan available.
I know it might seem like a short amount of time to shift into new patterns of truth speaking and boundary setting BUT you'd be surprised how quickly we can integrate into that innate wisdom that our bodies hold.
If you're looking for a deeper dive, you can choose the VIP option and book some precious 1:1 time with Elise!
I have more questions not listed here, how can I get in touch with you?
Will this help me in my business?
When are the group coaching calls? What if I can't make them all?
Is 6 weeks really long enough for this program?
So soooo glad you asked! The group coaching calls will be on Thursdays at 12:00pm EST (1:00pm AST), and all calls will be recorded and uploaded with an email replay as well as a link on the Facebook Group page. AS WELL, you'll have access to the calls for 90 days after the program ends!
I have more questions not listed here, how can I reach you?
Will this help me with my business?
When are the group coaching calls? What if I can't make them all?
Is 6 weeks really long enough for this program?
Indeed! Although this program isn't tailored towards business or entrepreneurship, I can guarantee you'll find this work helpful in you're personal AND professional communications and boundary setting!
I have more questions not listed here, how can I reach you ?
Will this help me in my business?
What is your training? What makes you qualified to offer this work?
How is coaching delivered?
Questions? No problem. I got answers:
I have more questions, not listed here, how can i reach you?
will this help my business?
When are the group coaching calls? what if I can't make them?
Is 6 weeks really long enough for this program?
Questions?
No problem.
I got answers:
I know it might seem like a short amount of time to shift into new patterns of truth speaking and boundary setting BUT you'd be surprised how quickly we can integrate into that innate wisdom that our bodies hold.
If you're looking for a deeper dive, you can choose the VIP option and book some precious 1:1 time with Elise!
So soooo glad you asked! The group coaching calls will be on Thursdays at 12:00pm EST (1:00pm AST), and all calls will be recorded and uploaded with an email replay as well as a link on the Facebook Group page. AS WELL, you'll have access to the calls for 90 days after the program ends!
Indeed! Although this program isn't tailored towards business or entrepreneurship, I can guarantee you'll find this work helpful in you're personal AND professional communications and boundary setting!
Yes! Please feel free to email me at elise@elisebesler.com or DM me on instagram: @elisebesler
- ERICA BLACKBURN, CLARITY COACH AND SPIRITUAL HEALING MENTOR
“Elise has helped me uncover areas of my life and work where I was ready to express myself more authentically. As an entrepreneur this has been life changing! It has allowed me to refine my skills in listening and speaking from a place of personal truth, power and authenticity”
- ALISON MCRAE, BOARD CHAIR, IWK FOUNDATION
“This work makes me feel so empowered. I've been encouraged to trust my voice despite my inner critic. I've gone from staying silent or responding in fight mode to expressing myself from a more regulated state. In this work, I've felt safe to build my confidence and ability to speak my truth. ”
The secret is in your boundary bad-assery!
