Welcome, Truth Speaker!
I'm Elise Besler
Nervous system regulation geek and visionary coach behind your next Bold Presence moves in life and leadership!
My clients call me a Stage Fright Whisperer (for everything from the stage to setting a boundary) and a Ventral Anchor (that means they feel safe around me)!
I call myself a life-long student of embodied truth.
You are on this earth for a reason, and it's not to hide, it's to lead from your abundant truth.
If you're struggling to show up authentically, I see you.
Raise your hand if you've had challenges with understanding yourself (like REALLY understanding yourself) along your journey... and then, raise your hand again if you were taught you need to work harder, fix yourself or apply mindset strategies and goal setting to help you rise above those challenges...
If you're like me, you likely raised your hand twice.
Here's thing, "finding your voice" and understanding why you communicate and show up the way you do has a little to do with mindset and goals and a lot to do with allowing your body to feel safe to express yourself in any given moment.
I'm in the trenches with you, doing this work on the daily.
This is where our work together takes centre stage!
ACTUALLY, YOU DON'T NEED TO "FIND YOUR VOICE", (you've had a voice all along); This work helps you find the POWER within to share your voice!
I started my life as a painfully shy child (I used to hide behind my mom's bell bottoms).
I knew I had so much to say, but the words wouldn't move past my lips.
I became a perfectionist and wouldn't say "boo" unless it was at the right time, to avoid feeling humiliated.
I also had a BIG passion for singing. So, imagine that conundrum!
I've also lived in a large body most of my life and spent a good number of years waffling back and forth between shrinking myself so I could be more conventionally acceptable, and staying silent in my larger body so as not to draw attention to myself, I didn't know it before, but this was WISE AF on my nervous system's part.
In addition to years of training and experience as a life coach, voice coach and communication expert, the most important work I've done is spending the last decade learning about how the wisdom of our nervous system (namely the vagus nerve) can make or break a soul aligned truth speaking moment.
Something important to remember about living in your truth:
- My teacher, Deb Dana (Poly Vagal Theory) says: "Our story (the one we believe/tell ourselves) follows our nervous system state". If our story is of stress and trauma, our state and authentic truth functioning is suppressed. If our story is of ease, regulation and gratitude, we have a greater chance of feeling comfortable to show up authentically, and even boldly.
Understanding your own nervous system cues and how they affect your ability to show up authentically is the way through to fully expressing your truth.
Around here, nervous system literacy is our medicine of choice!
Learning to trust body wisdom... A game changer.
It was (and is) during hard conversations in their personal and professional leadership, in their ability to set boundaries and yes, their ability to feel more comfortable on virtual and in person stages.
The "performance coach" in me initially taught people how to "find their voice" and "overcome their nerves" (actual copy I used) until I recognized this went against everything my own body needed as a truth speaker, a singer and a leader in my community.
It was when I felt the power of aligned belief/nervous system work in my own life and career that things shifted:
- my clients now have a strong understanding of their body cues and how they affect their expression of truth.
- they understand that befriending and rewiring their nervous system and those whacked out responses we all feel, is the actual way through to confidence in leadership and visibility.
- that centring dignity in their communication style allows themselves and others to have a felt sense of safety, and ensures trustworthy interactions.
Now, I teach others how to speak their truth like a boss!
About the work...
Curious What It’s Like Working With Me?
Weather we're working together in a VIP 1:1 Coaching Package, A Group Workshop or Retreat OR you hire me to be a Keynote Speaker at your event, here's what the work is all about.
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Soulful coaching tools using the Dignity Centred Communication Framework and Somatic Wisdom Coaching to support your expansion as a leader in your professional and personal life on stage as a public speaker, and in relation to others. This is where you SOAR into Bold Presence!
STEP TWO
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Somatic and nervous system regulating practices to support deep connection to your inner embodied truth. Tapping into the wisdom of your body is the first step towards showing up with Bold Presence, and fearless expression. Your body holds the answers you've been seeking.
STEP ONE
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Customized communication consultation, voice and speaking confidence and personalized dialogue blueprint for your personal leadership style or public speaking engagements . We build embodied resilience, inner truth expression so you can be more of who you're meant to be!
STEP THREE
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Clients that work with me regularly experience the following:
- Increased confidence in their ability to have hard conversations and set/maintain healthy and sustainable boundaries.
- Finding and unleashing the power of their voice.
- Speaking their truth in a way that feels good.
- Increased ability to hold onto their autonomy in personal and professional relationships. (Aka: not giving their power away).
- Nervous system regulation at the core level.
- Understanding their protective outputs at the nervous system level.
- Trusting their body cues for the first time.
- Bold presence in personal and professional leadership.
- Healing self doubt.
- Trusting themselves more.
- Trusting their voice and inner truth at a cellular/soul level.
- Healing inner critic narratives.
- Healing imposter syndrome.
- Healing toxic people pleasing.
- Healing limiting beliefs that hold them back from living the life they really want.
- Moving out of “stuckness” and overwhelm.
- Healing burnout.
- Exploring and maintaining work/life balance.
- Finding and feeling a greater sense of purpose.
MOST IMPORTANTLY: they’re living a soul aligned life for maybe the first time ever!
HERE ARE SOME KIND WORDS MY FABULOUS CLIENTS HAVE SAID ABOUT OUR WORK TOGETHER:
"I was struggling with celebrating myself and believing my voice was worth sharing. It was empowering to open up and share my truth and struggles. Since this opening, I’m empowered to speak up and trust my voice."
Jess Clerk ~ Confidence Coach and Podcast Host
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HERE ARE SOME KIND WORDS MY FABULOUS CLIENTS HAVE SAID ABOUT OUR WORK TOGETHER:
“Elise has helped me uncover areas of my life and work where I was ready to express myself more authentically. As an entrepreneur this has been life changing! It has allowed me to refine my skills in listening and speaking from a place of personal truth, power and authenticity”
Erica Blackburn ~ Spiritual Mentor and Clarity Coach
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HERE ARE SOME KIND WORDS MY FABULOUS CLIENTS HAVE SAID ABOUT OUR WORK TOGETHER:
“This work makes me feel so empowered. I've been encouraged to trust my voice despite my inner critic. I've gone from staying silent or responding in fight mode to expressing myself from a more regulated state. In this work, I've felt safe to build my confidence and ability to speak my truth. ”
Alison McCrae ~ Board Chair, IWK Foundation
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HERE ARE SOME KIND WORDS MY FABULOUS CLIENTS HAVE SAID ABOUT OUR WORK TOGETHER:
“Working with Elise, I was able to let go of some of my fears around perfection or looking silly, and sink into what it meant to identify myself, my desires, and my goals. Elise helped shift my perspective from being a passive character in my own life, to a much more active one. I highly recommend working with Elise if you struggle with communicating not only with others, but also with yourself.”
Nikki Rose Martin ~ Actor/Musician/Writer/Teacher
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I embody and believe that clear , compassionate communication and advocacy of self and others is the key to building thriving, equitable businesses and creative endeavours. Leaning into this work together means we can inspire each other to create the much needed change this world is craving.
Working with me affirms that YOU ALSO believe in and prioritize that Indigenous lives matter. Black Lives Matter. People of Colour's Lives Matter. You support 2SLGBTQQIA+ rights and you advocate for body justice for ALL bodies. You are actively working to dismantle White Supremacy and colonized practices in your life and business.
I am a white, cis gender fat woman with financial privilege and I frame my coaching from that point of view. I have also purposely created this work to celebrate diversity with intention and to create an affirming culture of bravery and belonging, where every participant can be their fullest selves and speak their authentic truth.
I live and work on the sacred land of Mi’kma’ki, the ancestral and unceded territory of the Mi’kmaq People, and I acknowledge them as the past, present, and future caretakers of this land.